With the beginning of every New Year people around the world have one thing in common; to try and make it a better year than the one before. Seollal is one of the most important holidays in South Korea. It is a celebration that takes place on the first day of the first month based on the lunar calendar. Today, many South Korean people also celebrate solar New Year¡¯s Day on the 1stday of January, according to the Gregorian calendar,yet traditionally, Seollal is considered a more important holiday.
This year is the Year of the Horse according to the Chinese zodiac calendar. How appropriate it is that the spirit of the horse is recognized to be the Korean people's ethos – making unremitting efforts to improve themselves. There is no better example of Koreans vying to improve themselves than the fervour parents have for their children to improve their English language skills. In addition, there appears to be an urgency to be perfect, not only in the ability to speak English, but in every aspect of Korean society.
This notion of perfection has created an extremely stressful environment and becomes quite evident during the celebration of Seollal, especially when extended families gather and the discussions revolve around the children¡¯s lives. I remember spending many days last New Year¡¯s listening to my Korean friend¡¯s relatives interrogating her about the life choices she had made, in particular, to remain single. My friend is a beautiful and well-respected business woman in Seoul and although she is quite successful did not receive any accolades or acknowledgement for her achievements from her relatives because she was not perfect in their eyes, she was not married.
Seollal is a time when we should inspire, and reflect and celebrate the YTT (Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow) of our lives within our families. After all, doesn¡¯t being a family mean to love, trust, respect, share, understand, listen, care and most of all support and inspire each person within the family. Do you see anything that requires perfection in this definition? Every day of our lives can be challenging enough, we do not need the stressful cloud of perfection hanging over our heads. However, this Happy New Year may neither be happy nor new for many young adults who will soon have to endure a torrent of nosy advice and condescending comparisons from their families during this time of the year.
In western culture, we often greet the New Year by wishing every person a Happy New Year, but for me the Korean saying of Saehae Bok Mani Badeuseyo (»õÇØº¹¸¹À̹ÞÀ¸¼¼¿ä!) carries a deeper meaning. Literally it means ¡°In the New Year, may you receive many blessings¡±, thus ¡°May your New Year be filledwithblessings.¡± Let us improve how we support and inspire each other, so we may reap the many blessings that will grace our coming New Year. From my family to all of your families, I wish you a sincere »õÇØº¹¸¹À̹ÞÀ¸¼¼¿ä!